Some days seem to blur into the next, the same screenplay as the one before with conversations taken from the same page, just reworded. This happens a lot at my work as the calls are virtually the same each and every day. It can get tiring.
There is one thing that I never want to become routine or a script from a show. I never want romance to be a repeat. Each day must have a different melody and a different dance, with Salty and I caught up in the midst of it all.
There are different riffs in music that you’ll hear over and over and over again. A prime example of this is the guitar riff in “I Want a New Drug” by Huey Lewis and the News, and the guitar riff in “Ghostbusters.” While hauntingly similar, small changes are made in just a few beats and the riff becomes something completely different.
I feel that romance and love can be the same. It only takes two measures and a few note changes to switch the routine, but when you do it feels so refreshing and the spark is rekindled.
Salty and I have been careful in making sure that we don’t lost sight of what brings us together. Our spontaneity and drive for adventure drew us together, and it will continue to hold us together as we find new things to introduce every day.
At one point in our marriage, it seemed like there was a disconnect because we were doing the same things that we always had. Salty was struggling with how she felt and was finally able to open up to me about how she was afraid of getting into a regular routine. I didn’t know what to do, but I started by making more of an effort to be proactive about asking if there was anything I could do to make the day special for her. This helped immensely, and now our marriage is thriving because we are constantly seeking for ways to put the other one first.
Will you buy flowers one day for a loved one? Will you clean the house on your day off of work to say I love you? What will you do to change the routine and make it something exciting a new?
As with a riff, remember that an established pattern is not bad to follow as long as slight changes are made along the way. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it; but you better be making steady improvements so it doesn’t go out of style.